Why these people seem not to understand...it’s so easy, so obvious...
must have passed through your mind at least once.
Well, Are you sure that it was so simple and obvious for them, to share your point of view?
Let me play a little game with you
Look at the image below for a couple of seconds. What do you see? |
| Figure 1. |
Probably you have seen a belle epoque Parisian dancer or a grumpy old lady. Now, please, take a look at the picture again, and try to visualize the character you have not seen before. Have you seen it this time?
The chances are that you have not. Please, pay attention to the figure below.
The chances are that you have not. Please, pay attention to the figure below.
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| Figure 2 |
Now look again at the image in the first figure.
Can you see now both the characters? Can you see both the belle epoque Parisian dancer and the grumpy old lady?
Someone immediately sees the dancer, and someone else sees the old lady; that is because different people look at the same things from different point of views, from different perspectives, and with different sensibilities.
So it is not that your stakeholders are strenuously and stubbornly defending their positions against your assaults, it is not that they do not want to get your point. Simply enough, your stakeholders see things in a different light, and probably, they cannot see through the curtains where your point of view lays; in the same way, as you could not see one of the two characters in the first figure, when I asked you to try.
Instead, try to explain your point starting from something your stakeholders know, from something they see. You have to step into their cognitive space, understand it and map it in yours. This is more or less how I explained to you how to visualize both images. I started from something you saw and mapped it into the other picture.
Managing discussions, meetings, stakeholders, and relationships with the presented approach, requires a good deal of time and effort. Nonetheless, it also explicitly states that you do care about other people's point of views.
Indulge me a little more, and please take another quick look at the image in Figure 1.
What have you seen this time?
Because we tend to retain more easily concepts we have worked upon, than those we have spontaneously elaborated on a whim. The phenomenon you have just experienced explains why, in the long term, working in the cognitive space of the other people is a very effective approach.
Well...I am going to ask you a little more of your time.
Please, take a look at the images in the first figure and try to identify alternatively both the characters.
In the same way, the more you get used in joining people in their cognitive space and mapping it in yours, the more you will be able to explain your point of view to other people and understand their.
Can you see now both the characters? Can you see both the belle epoque Parisian dancer and the grumpy old lady?
The cognitive space
Well, this is what sometimes happens to people during discussions.Someone immediately sees the dancer, and someone else sees the old lady; that is because different people look at the same things from different point of views, from different perspectives, and with different sensibilities.
So it is not that your stakeholders are strenuously and stubbornly defending their positions against your assaults, it is not that they do not want to get your point. Simply enough, your stakeholders see things in a different light, and probably, they cannot see through the curtains where your point of view lays; in the same way, as you could not see one of the two characters in the first figure, when I asked you to try.
Join people in their cognitive space
It is often useless attempting to persuade people, repeating the same line of thought many times.Instead, try to explain your point starting from something your stakeholders know, from something they see. You have to step into their cognitive space, understand it and map it in yours. This is more or less how I explained to you how to visualize both images. I started from something you saw and mapped it into the other picture.
Managing discussions, meetings, stakeholders, and relationships with the presented approach, requires a good deal of time and effort. Nonetheless, it also explicitly states that you do care about other people's point of views.
Indulge me a little more, and please take another quick look at the image in Figure 1.
What have you seen this time?
Bias of the cognitive space
The chances are that now you have immediately identified the image you saw for second, the one that I mapped in your cognitive space. Why?Because we tend to retain more easily concepts we have worked upon, than those we have spontaneously elaborated on a whim. The phenomenon you have just experienced explains why, in the long term, working in the cognitive space of the other people is a very effective approach.
Well...I am going to ask you a little more of your time.
Please, take a look at the images in the first figure and try to identify alternatively both the characters.
Get Skilled
The more you get used to identify the different characters in the first figure, the more you find it easy, and the more you are able to do it quickly.In the same way, the more you get used in joining people in their cognitive space and mapping it in yours, the more you will be able to explain your point of view to other people and understand their.
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| Bacchus or two lovers kissing? |
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| High society or a donkey? |
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| A skull or two little girls with a puppy? |
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